When we learn about the creation of woman in the Torah, the word that is used is "vayiven" which in English would translate as "and he built."
Like a house.
In order to build an structure that lasts, there needs to be a strong foundation. Some people are dreaming of the painting on the walls. Others are dreaming of the chandeliers in the dining room. But anyone smart knows that the the home has to be built from the foundation upward. Without a STRONG foundation the whole edifice will collapse!
A woman is the foundation of her home. She is the soul. She is the spirit. She is the pulse.
That's why he Torah endows her with the gift of "binah" which men do not possess.
What is this elusive gift that the Torah describes as "binah?" What is so special about this extra understanding which she posesses?
Binah-understanding is all about building. Unlike Chochmah which is just plain knowledge. With Binah you have to connect a few blocks of knowledge. You need to cement it together with insight. With Chochmah all you need is the bricks. They don't have to be attached at all.
This is a women. She uses every bit of knowledge of knowledge that she owns and she uses it to cement her home. She combines all the insights in her life and creates an atmosphere of warmth and kindness.
How does she accomplish this monumental task in her home?
She needs to tap into her INNER VOICE.
I will make a statement here that may seem a bit extreme but if you think about it - it makes logical sense.
"Women that just follow their husbands blindly without ever differing in opinion, are not an ezer knegdo!" (A helper to her husband)
Btw - this is not my statement. This is taken from Rebbitzin Kaminetsky - R' Shmuel Kaminetsky's wife.
Of course, this is not to say that a woman should ALWAYS be differing in opinion. Its only about using her own mind!
BECAUSE THATS WHAT A WOMAN IS!
She looks around at her husband and her children and THINKS: "Is this how I'd like my home to be built?"
Now the hard part is - how am I going to get the message over to them. Am I going to scream? Am I going to sulk in silence? Am I going to keep pestering them until I get what I want?
urI'm sure you as a woman you can share some very brilliant tg tactics on how you've gotten your message across.
I'm reminded of the woman who needed her furniture fixed in her room. Her husband was handy so she asked him if he can do it. He nodded (like all good husbands do) and of course proceeded to forget about the request. (Like all good husbands do.) After some time, she asked again. Again there was a nod and....nothing. Finally, she thought of an idea!
One hot summery day in July, after a long day of work, she greeting him with a big smile at the door. "Happy Birthday Dear" He entered the kitchen to find balloons and streamers hanging all around. He looked at her strangely.
His birthday was in December!
At the supper table was a beautifully decorated cake with red icing that read: "Happy Birthday! It's been 1 year since I made that request!"
You can be sure the furniture was fixed that day!
This is a physical matter. When it comes to spiritual matters of the household, things can get a lot more complex!
EVERY WOMAN HAS HER PULSE ON HER HOME!
If she doesn't............... Then she's ignoring her inner voice.