You know those kids that are brilliant? Like not just smart and brainy. The ones that have the brains together with the social savvy. And people always say about them “this kids going to be big one day.”
And then what?
I don’t know about you, but I’ve seen a lot more gifted children than adults. What happens to them? Do they lose their giftedness? Do they all die young?
You know those kids who just know how to persuade anyone to do anything? Or sit in a classroom bored because they got what the teacher said after the first time? Or the kid that asks the most intriguing questions – that even gets you to think. Like ” What’s it like to die?” Or “Why should I get married?”…
So after thinking about this for a while I finally came to a very PAINFUL conclusion. It’s a reality so clear to me that I want to cry every time I think about it.
THEY ARE SQUASHED.
When they were younger they were told to achieve their potential. Learn as much as you can learn. Do as much as you can do. Be whatever you can be.
And then when real life hits, we tell them, JUST LISTEN TO WHAT I SAY!” “STOP MAKING ISSUES OUT OF EVERYTHING!” “WHY CANT YOU JUST TOW A LINE?” Or even “HOW COME YOU ARE ALWAYS GETTING INTO TROUBLE?
This pains me much.
We CLAIM that we are sad that there are no Gedolim today and yet what are we doing about it? We are just complaining, and at the same time being a cause of the problem.
WE ARE NOT DEVELOPING PEOPLE. WE ARE STIFLING THEM.
Another very interesting thought came to me the other day. I was thinking about the previous generations Gedolim. And how brilliant some of them were. Yet in this generation, for some reason, nobody comes to mind.
The only Gedolim that I can think of are people that are MASMIDIM. People that have good MEMORIES. People that are CONTIENTIOUS.
Where are the brilliant children that are turning into the Gedolim that they were meant to be? Like the kids with the really high IQ’s
I’m starting to realize that our generation doesn’t really WANT them.
When these people get up to share their pearls of wisdom, they are quickly shut down. When people say the truth, people don’t want to hear it.
It’s so sad.
But History was ALWAYS like this.
Yermiyahu was thrown into jail! Gedalyah Ben Achikam was stoned! Nobody wanted to hear their sage words. They’d rather close their eyes and live in imagined peace.
But there are TWO parties involved in this phenomena here. The first is the LISTENER (who is shutting the speaker out) and the second is the SPEAKER.
And I feel here that this is the second issue.
THE SPEAKER DOES NOT WANT TO TALK!
It’s very hard to say things that people don’t want to hear. You really create a lot of enemies. People don’t like hearing sage advice. They’d much rather live in their bubble.
I was thinking this when I was recently at a meeting where people were discussing how to make money. The man at the podium was saying how “the middleast is not the greatest place to make your fortune right now.” And then, like a a lightning bolt, I started thinking. “What if Iran gains power over America?” What then? Would we be capable of making a fortune here? These people are in La la land! They think they are safe here because they can’t SEE the danger. But doesn’t mean it’s not there!
It’s like a child who wants to hide from his mother, so he turns around. As if his mother can’t see him. Or he closes his eyes.
No wonder the speaker has such a hard time opening up his mouth.
But it’s still not an excuse.
WE CAN CHOOSE TO FIT IN SOCIALLY – OR WE CAN TAP INTO OUR PURPOSE OF BEING CREATED.
Don’t you ever think about Yonah? Who ran away from Hashem. He needed to give over a message to Bnei Yisrael.
But he didn’t want to. Because it’s SO HARD.
When a person starts to tap into his real strengths, when he starts to get in touch with HIS reality, it can get VERY LONELY. There is no one there to support him anymore.
He needs to gather strength from HIMSELF. He needs to rely on HASHEM.
He may even acquire a few enemies along the way.
So he runs away from the task that he was put on this earth to do.
Can we blame him?
But it’s still not an excuse. Hardships are not an excuse for not doing our duties. If my child needs their diaper changed, I cannot say”it’s too hard.” Or even potty training. ( I just finished with that so I can fully sympathize with anyone going through this now.)
We were put on this world to attain perfection. Hashem has placed a neshama deep within every person. We need to begin speaking to this soul of ours and asking it questions.
Ask your Neshama what it was put into this world to do. Listen to its answer.
Some people were put into this world to LISTEN to other people and some people were put in this world to TALK.
And the gifted people may just have to exit thier social comfort zones and start TALKING.