Women are like men nowadays. They have lost their inner values. They have lost their self respect. Yada, yada, yada.... You've heard this a million times over.
What does Patriarchy actually mean? Why did Feminism come out with such a bang? What did patriarchy lack that people thought Feminism would fill? People aren't dumb. People aren't moving out of their comfort zone so easily. If there was a movement that came out that spoke to them, there must have been something in the idea that inspired them to move. What was it?
Women obviously we're not satisfied with the Patriarchal world that they lived in.
A Patriarchal world is a world where men are doing WHATEVER THEY WANT. A Patriarchal world is where men are ignoring their responsibilities to their wives and their children. A Patriarchal world is where the men are free to use their creativity, independence and passions whenever they wish. Without feeling bound to anything.
A Feminist world is the exact opposite. (I can feel the tension inside any man while he reads this. Don't worry buddy, I'll give the same slack to the women.) A feminist world is where there is no consideration for the men. Where the women get to do as they wish without any regard for their husbands. They are free to be creative, explore the world and be independent. They don't have any responsibilities harnessing them down.
You ask which is better?
I'll tell you NONE!
When a person gets married, whether be it a man or a woman, he/she is agreeing to take on the responsibilities that a relationship entails. They are also free to take care of their personal enjoyment, creativity, or passions.... They EACH have to take responsibility for themselves. And yet, they EACH have to take responsibility for the other.
When they agree to be in a marriage together, THIS IS PART OF THE PACKAGE. Marriage is definitely a very nice gift of life, but it's not for free.
As the saying goes: "Nothing good in life is free."
Both partners have to be given over to each other. Now, I know what ends up happening after people read this. I'm singing to the choir. The spouse that is given over in the relationship realizes the responsibility, and commits to give even more! This is not the point!
WHEN ONE SPOUSE IS TOO GIVEN OVER, THEY ARE STIFLING THEIR SPOUSE FROM GIVING.
The goal of marriage is not to be a martyr, but to grow as a person. Sometimes, we think we are growing when in essence we are stifling our partners. And then we create either a feminist/ patriarchal marriage.
Now, please understand what I am saying here. I am not saying we need to stop giving if we give "too much." I am saying that we need to understand a full picture here and be aware of the fact that our actions may just be creating a not so healthy marriage.
I say BOTH partners have to give in the relationship. HOWEVER EACH PARTNER CAN GET TO THIS REALIZATION.
And when two partners decide to have children, the same thing happens all over again. BOTH partners are making this decision TOGETHER. And therefore BOTH partners are sharing the responsibilities. Now one may choose spend time with the children at home and tante other may choose to make money for the family. But it's a joint decision, that BOTH partners are making together.
Which means they are both being HONEST as well as both are AGREEING.
This subject is so vast that I don't know if I can EVER cover this topic. But at least I started today.
Till next time....